April 30, 2008

The First Step to NH


Was trading in our styling yet totally gas devouring VW for a Subaru Outback, which if it's not on stuff white people like it should be.

I have yet to see a person of color anywhere near a Subaru. (And yes, I've been looking. What do you think I do when I'm not blogging or going to the library?)

Anyway, our VW aka "Ruthie" had over 130,000 miles on her and we just kept emptying our bank accounts getting her fixed this year. The a.c. got fried when we were up in NH (where it was surprisingly balmly) and it's just not legal to have a pregnant woman in a car with no a.c during the summer. It had to be done. Yesterday N. went in with Ruthie and came out with the car who has yet to be named. There was no question of not getting a Subaru for NH because we're white, listen to NPR, like Barack Obama, and will probably join some kind of food Co-op. Plus it has all wheel drive which I hear is helpful during the occasional New England snow flurry.

I heard from the gays that Subarus are a very lesbian car, which I guess is something. But still, those crazy kids just picked themselves up a super cute, city-friendly Honda Fit. It feels a little bit like they got a Mac and we got a PC. Our new(ish) Outback has made me feel really married, kind of boring, and less black than ever.

April 25, 2008

More Library Books


Just so my 3.5 readers understand that there's more to me than just detailing my angst about leaving Brooklyn, moving to Red Sock Country, and being pregnant with the Bean, let's have another book review.

Perhaps this will be the start of a semi-regular series. Friday books. This is until it gets too hot for me to read, of course.

Yesterday I finished Jhumpa Lahiri's second collection of short stories Unaccustomed Earth. Unlike the book before this, the novel The Namesake, I found it very satisfying. I think Lahiri is a much better short story writer than novelist. For me, the novel fell apart on page 200 (I think it was about 350 pages) because I found the parents in the first part of the book much more compelling and believable. On page 200 when the main character leaves home/his parents I found him to be flat and somewhat cliche in his relationships with American women.

The stories in Unaccustomed Earth deal with the same themes Lahiri writes about in The Namesake and her first and excellent story collection Interpreter of Maladies: the Bengali experience in America, most likely in suburbaney-urban places like Seattle and Cambridge and Philadelphia. In this way there's something comforting about reading Lahiri's stories because you feel like you already know these people. But it also seems like Lahiri is stretching her characters too--rather than mostly dealing with the Indian/Cambridge divide, the characters in the new book deal with sibling alcoholism, parent death, remarriage, secret illness, class/assimilation issues, isolation in suburbia, empty but consuming relationships. The last three stories are connected in a satisfying way--Lahiri naturally seems like a novella-ist. Her stories are long but not quite long enough for the novel so the three connected stories seem like a good bridge to this.

Lahiri is a classic, very writerly (I know writerly is a terrible word to use but I can't think of another) writer. Her sentences aren't cool like Richard Price or cute but have a strong sense of old-school narrative. She writes real stories about real people with real problems that feel set in real time.

Michiko Kakutani put it a lot more elegantly in her April 4th review:

Ms. Lahiri writes about these people in “Unaccustomed Earth” with an intimate knowledge of their conflicted hearts, using her lapidary eye for detail to conjure their daily lives with extraordinary precision: the faint taste of coconut in the Nice cookies that a man associates with his dead wife; the Wonder Bread sandwiches, tinted green with curry, that a Bengali mother makes for her embarrassed daughter to take to school. A Chekhovian sense of loss blows through these new stories: a reminder of Ms. Lahiri’s appreciation of the wages of time and mortality and her understanding too of the missed connections that plague her husbands and wives, parents and children, lovers and friends.


I think it's the "Chekhovian sense of loss blows" is why Kakutani writes for the Times and I just write in my kitchen.

April 23, 2008

More on Taking The Job

So we went up to NH last weekend. The college itself is beautiful--brick buildings, a nice little quad, healthy and athletic looking students. It's very collegiate looking, which will be a nice change for N. since his last school felt more like a...warehouse? factory? It's a real step up.

We don't want to live in the town where the college is because it seems too small and is also expensive since it's popular for retirees and wealthy city folk who like to summer in the lake district. Most likely we'll move about 30 minutes north. The big thing is that I need to change my attitude about driving and distance. Unlike Brooklyn where I can easily walk to yoga to the bookstore to the coffee shop to the bar (not that the baby is drinking yet) up there you can't find everything you want in one town--the locals seem to think more in terms of a general area--like 3 or more towns. So you obviously have to drive quite a bit.

I haven't had a car since I lived in Seattle 7 years ago.

But back to bars. I kept wondering where are the bars were in the town where the school is because um, isn't that why college was invented? But there wasn't one bar in the town. Someone back here said NH has weird laws about having standing alone bars--they have to have food so many are just in restaurants. This would explain a lot but I wonder how those underage college kids snuggle the Coors into their dorms since the ID laws are crazy strict up there. N. got carded at every single place he boozed. And the dude is old! He looks even older too!

Do the college kids have fake id's? Perhaps I can really dedicate some time this year in figuring out this conundrum.

April 21, 2008

He Took the Job

So we're officially moving to the "Live Free or Die" state.

More later.

April 17, 2008

A Box O' Sweaters

All winter long, as my belly steadily grew bigger and bigger, and the number of sweaters that were appropriate to wear dwindled, I kept having thoughts like didn't I used to have a black V-neck? What happened to that gray cardigan with the old man buttons? In early March I demanded N. buy me a sweater because the pickings were so slim. He came back with a very nice tee-shirt but what can you expect? All NYC retail stores burn their winter apparel in February and roll out the summer wear even though it's very likely it will very cold for the next three months.

So. N. went to his rented storage area on Tuesday to go through 33 years worth of stuff and sort out what he needs to bring to NH. In the midst of his XL-tees (this was before he went on the Biggest Loser), comic books, $500.00 of useless foreign currency, and a large stuffed purple unicorn, what did he discover?

A box of my sweaters! 23 of them to be exact! No wonder it was such a cold winter. I guess wearing the "new" sweaters is something to look forward to in NH.

Even though I have only myself to blame for putting the sweaters into storage, it kind of reminds me of the time my mom took me to Banana Republic in 10th grade and bought me my very first pair of expensive and stylish jeans. I loved these jeans. They fit my hips like butter. I only got to wear them for three times before the disappeared. I'll be the first to admit that I went a little crazy looking for the jeans for the next 7 months. Periodically, I would insist that my parents empty out the house. I also searched the homes of anyone who was my size and weight and might have had a thing for pants. I routinely asked my brother, J, who had a habit of liking my clothes more than his. Yeah, they were girl jeans but a 85 pound 7th grader can wear pretty much anything. J denied ever having seen then, let alone take them sans permission.

And so it went. Life interrupted with manic, futile searches. And then, late June, J arrives home with two heaving garbage bags full of "stuff from his locker."

Of course, you guessed it, I found the jeans were among the 80,000 pounds of paper and oak tag. Rage does not even begin to describe my approach to J who said he was waiting for a good time to mention it.

Is there a lesson in this? Is is weird that I'm still not over this?

N. wants it to be known that he never was an actual XL and he never was on the Biggest Loser. He was just into the baggy style a little too long. These days, not buying the 6 packs, is actually making him a sveltve medium unlike his big-bellied woman. He can't deny the purple unicorn, however.

April 15, 2008

Another Great Thing About Brooklyn


Is the library. I love libraries in general but Brooklyn's is particularly fantastic. In that other borough (Manhattan) to get a just-reviewed NY Times book you need to reserve it way in advance and then probably wait at least three months. In Brooklyn? Richard Price's new novel Lush Life was reviewed on a Saturday. I reserved it on Monday and got it the following week! Amazing. Our current hood is mere blocks away from the newly renovated central library, which is like the Rolls Royce of branches.

Lush Life was a great read, too. Price really captures the gentrification/ghettoization of the LES. I like how he makes his characters so complicated in their failures. Plus, the guy is terrific with details and dialogue. I can see why David Simon loved him as a Wire writer.

Now, I'm reading yet another recently NY Times novel that I got in record time from the library. Unaccustomed Earth by Jhumpa Lahiri. I'm still on the first story, which is about a pregnant mom who moves across the country for her husband's job. I had to put it down when the character thinks about missing the ladies from prenatal yoga and fiending for an egg and cheese from the local bodega.

April 13, 2008

Another Thing I Won't Miss


Heavy footed, clomping upstairs neighbors at 2:00 AM.  I think they were playing drunken bocce up there. Or maybe full court b-ball.  Being pregnant and stressed about the impending move has already made my sleep less than great.  Big Foot upstairs last night didn't help.  From here on in, buddy, I'll vacuum at 7:00 AM and grind coffee beans at 6:00 if the mood strikes.

April 12, 2008

NH Is Not Iraq

It's much colder there.
In all seriousness, N. has an acquaintance/friend from high school who he reconnected with via Facebook. He now gets updates from this guy whose a Marine in Iraq. That's far. That's scary. That man's poor wife. I have to think she'd love her big fears to be alone with a baby in New England.

It's all about keeping it in perspective, right?

April 11, 2008

I'm Going To Miss (Most of) This

There's a baby crying. Like really crying. And this woman next to me has been on her cell phone for maybe 40 minutes. The sing along is going to happen in 20 minutes so there's about 1,000 kids and their caretakers gridlocking the water cooler with their $1,000 strollers, getting amped up on coffee and organic apple juice so psyched to sing Old MacDonaldTwinkleTwinkle for the next half hour. Normally I can block all this out but today I'm not really getting much work done because I keep thinking how there won't be anything like this in NH. I'm not kidding when I say there must be 25 kid-less people all between 20-40 on their laptops--23 of them are using Macs of course.

One thing I won't miss is the shoeless man.

I understand being comfortable. But not wearing shoes--today he's not even wearing socks! I don't want to see his feet. That's not why I paid $8.00 for a decaf latte and scone. He wouldn't be able to pull this shit up in NH. Mid-April it's still too cold to be a shoeless wonder.